Every parent wants their child to grow up confident with the ability to push forward and achieve their dreams.
If you want to guarantee this future for them then there are a few things that you can do to help them right now.
Give Praise when it’s Due
It’s so important that you are able to give praise when it’s due. Positive feedback will really help them to develop confidence and it will also give them the boost they need. You need to be realistic here though because if they fail at something or if they show no talent then praise the effort but don’t praise the result. Take the time to reassure them that everything is going to be okay and that they’re not going to be good at absolutely everything. This will help them to grow up with a healthy level of self-esteem and it will also help them to believe your praise.
Set Realistic Goals
Another thing that you need to do is help your child set realistic goals. If they are playing soccer and want to join the Olympic team for example then there is nothing wrong with that, but this isn’t a goal that they’ll be achieving in the near future. To help them, try and set goals that they can achieve sooner rather than later. This could include making it onto the school team, or even joining a local club and winning a championship.
You need to love yourself before you are able to teach your kids to do the same. Praise yourself when you do something well. You can do this by going out for a meal when you get a promotion at work, or even celebrate a successful dinner party by going to the movies afterwards. Little things like this will show your kids that hard work is rewarded. If you want to help them more then you may even want to talk about the skills required to reach goals, as this will help them to think more objectively.
Nobody will succeed at everything, all the time. They need to be able to handle criticism, pain and failure too. These should all be learning experiences rather than failures. You need to teach your child that setbacks are absolutely normal and that sometimes it can help them to grow. So if your child does poorly on a test, don’t tell them that they will never be good and that it’s something that they have to accept. Instead, talk about the steps that they can take in order to do better next time. When they are able to succeed, they will take pride in this and it will mean much more to them.
Show them Independence
Sometimes it helps to give your child some space. For example, if they are playing at nursery don’t stand by and watch them all the time. Let them know that you are there if they need you, and then back off so that they can learn themselves the true meaning of independence.
Disclosure: This is a partnered post