02-09-2014

Five things I’ve learnt from my first (pre) school summer holidays as a parent

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To me, next summer:

Have an action packed start
I originally assumed it would be best not to exhaust our summer bucket list too quickly and instead spread out activities to last the full duration. In fact, I found the first few weeks were when the plans for all day outings, etc, came in most useful. At the start of the summer holidays, you have more energy and enthusiasm, the new routine is disorienting so the thought of whole a day at home with all the kids is daunting. Save the quiet / low-key activities for the later weeks when you are exhausted and in the swing of your new summer holiday routine.

Don’t buy clothes or shoes at the start of the summer
Those clothes you bought to stash for next year in a bargain summer sale? Suddenly looking like they won’t last till this autumn. Kids grow like weeds over the summer. Don’t buy ANYTHING till late August or September. Or, if you do, always size up by a couple of years.

Let them eat snacks
I spent the first couple of weeks being really strict about sticking to appointed snack times. Half way through the summer, I could no longer be bothered to deal with hourly conversations battles over snacks, and so I relinquished all control. There were snack times every hour. But no one was moaning. Your kids are hungry ALL THE TIME. Keep the snack cupboard freshly stocked, let them at it, and give yourself an easy life.

Don’t schedule in any important appointments over summer
I’ve lost all sense of a schedule. I am never sure what day it is or what time it is. Appointments during the summer holidays are just an extra headache to work around and are likely to be forgotten about.

You will have fun
Children do a lot of growing over summer. Physically, emotionally, and in terms of milestones. It’s an exciting and fulfilling time to be around these little people 24/7. It’s been tiring, but it’s been the best.

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01-09-2014

Me And Mine (August)

With a toddler who won’t sit still or look at the camera if it’s on self-timer and there’s no one behind it to distract him, and a preschooler going through a big “NO PHOTOS” phase, I opted for the lazy option this month, by just letting the camera roll and selecting a still from a recording.

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It was just FAR easier than trying to wrangle everyone into a specific ‘shot’, and the kids weren’t even aware that they were on camera.

This was taken during our trip to Morden Hall Park. Of course, as it’s a still from a video recording, it will be of too poor quality to print, but the upshot of not waiting for that shutter click  is that it created a completely natural, unforced image.

Taken on the very last day of the month at a family gathering at my Uncle’s house, I also have this photo to share: photo (2)

Yep, we did that thing where you recreate a photo from the past. A few people are absent, and we’ve gained a few new members, but everything else is the same (just 15 years older!)

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This month I’m sending you to see Lauren over at her awesome blog, Real Housewife of Suffolk County. She’ll be sharing a photo of her family from this month, and sending you along to visit someone else. You can follow the circle around to see what all the hosts have been up to.

Have you taken a family photo this month? Link it up below!



 

29-08-2014

Learning to write

Knowing the long summer holiday was looming, I ever-so-eagerly picked up a ‘gold stars’ workbook from the Parragon Books stand At Britmums Live.

I thought this could be the perfect quiet day activity, whilst also helping Arlo to practise his writing and fine motor skills, areas which are not his best.

The book comes with a big sheet of gold stars and the idea was that you place a gold star on each page once completed.

But when Arlo faltered on the very first page (the pages are meant to be done in order as there is a skill level progression), telling me he wouldn’t be able to do it, I knew it was time to pack the book away till a later date.

I know my eldest well enough to understand that he takes a precise approach to everything, and won’t attempt a task until he knows he’s 100% capable of doing it properly. Anything else is time-wasting, apparently. Attempts to encourage him before he is ready generally lead to tears.

I don’t think he has any particular interest in drawing, and at the age of almost-four, he has yet to draw anything that is not an undiscernible scribble.

He does, however, have a lot more interest in learning to write. His preschool should take all the credit for aiding his progression with forming letters – I’ve done practically nothing.

Due to Arlo’s preference of learning alone in his own time, I tend to take a pretty passive, inactive approach to helping him, whilst still maintaining all the encouragement he needs (it’s a tricky balance, I tell you). And so it was, a few months ago, that I came to discover that he could write all the letters of his name, separately.

When I suggested he try to write the letters all in one go so it spells his name, he refused immediately and there were tears. So, I hung back. And then, last week I turned around to this: (always have that big camera handy!)

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He had written his name on his magnadoodle, unassisted. This was the first time Arlo had ever written his name. And the first time he’d really drawn ANYTHING that wasn’t a scribble.

So. Proud.

Swiftly after that, in the same sitting, he was confidently writing ‘Rory’, ‘Mama’, and ‘Dada’ too.

(He doesn’t think his C’s are quite neat enough so he’s now decided he’s better off drawing an ‘O’ and then erasing the latter half to make a perfect C shape. We’re trying to wean him off the magnadoodle.)

I keep finding various scraps of paper dotted around the house, our names written on them.

I’m currently reading the Matched series by Allie Condie. I’m not particularly loving it, but I mention it because one of the main themes of the books is the idea that learning how to write gives you the power to make your mark in life. That your own words are the most powerful.

Watching Arlo at the very beginning of this process has me excited at the thought of what’s in store for him in the future, all the things he will be able to create and all the ways he will be able to put his own stamp on the world.

A summer highlight for sure.

27-08-2014

Brand Love – me&i clothing

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Back in April, Rory and I went to visit our local me&i representative, Mari, (who, it turns out, is a member of Popchoir too) to have a nose through the me&i collection.

We all know my fondness for bright, unisex, hardwearing scandi design – me&i did not disappoint.

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I fell in love with this cheerful sheep baby vest. Thoughtful little touches like the double seams on the cuff (so they can be folded over neatly) mean that this vest fits very well over a long period of time and growth, without looking at all oversized.

Rory started wearing his vest at 11 months old, and at 15 months old the vest still has a couple of inches of growth room left. It will still fit him next Spring, that’s a whole year of wear.

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me&i is a clothing company made by mums, with all products tried and tested by a panel of children before they are available for sale. From the reinforced panels on the knees, soft, high quality fabric, and double seams on the trouser and arm cuffs as mentioned before, the whole range has been carefully designed with longevity in mind.

I also came away with a purchase for myself. I’d been searching for a grey jersey mini skirt for a while, and I love that the twisted hem means that the material doesn’t hang baggy and tired, as often happens with jersey.

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To get your hands on me&i clothing, find your nearest rep. You can host a me&i party where you and your friends can preview the entire collection in the comfort of your own home or a venue of your choice.

If you are local to Croydon or South East London, be sure to check out Mari’s me&i facebook page for new season announcements, sales, and special offers.

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I was not compensated for this post. It is not sponsored. Our me&i purchases were made with my own money.

26-08-2014

Lollibop Festival 2014 – The day we spent queuing

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We were given our Lollibop tickets with no obligation to write a review. Because a whole blog post about queuing is pretty boring, and we didn’t experience much else at the festival, I was ready to be done with the whole thing and not write a post at all.

But then I figured that if I were to brush every negative experience under the carpet (and bear with me, because it’s not ALL negative), I wouldn’t be doing a proper service for anyone looking to go in future years – family days out set you back a decent amount of money, and I know the importance in weighing up the positives and negatives and doing your research to make sure an event is a good fit for your family.

I have written many reviews for this blog, and as far as I can recall, not one has been majoratively negative – which goes to show just how much fun and value we get out of all the experiences that come out of this blog.

After having done three consecutive Lollibop’s, I am of the firm opinion that the festival is what you make of it.

2012 was probably our most enjoyable experience – The upside of Arlo being just short of two was that we were able to amble around, stumbling upon entertainment as we found it, with no particular agenda (disclosure: my view MAY be slightly clouded by the fact that we had access to the VIP area and the free booze that year). The downside was that he was a bit too young to appreciate it, and had we been paying for our tickets, I would have said it wasn’t worth it, wait a year. We were guests of someone else, and so we weren’t obliged to write about or review our experiences.

We weren’t really in the mood to make the most of it in 2013. Sam had gone straight from a long haul overnight flight to the festival, and I had just spent a sleep-deprived 10 days alone with a toddler and an 8 week old baby. The festival had also moved sites to Queen Elizabeth Olympic Park, there was a confusing new layout which made it hard to see where to go and what there actually was to DO at Lollibop.

This year, THIS YEAR, we were primed for Lollibop Festival. The new, leafy location of Hatfield House sounded promisingly similar to our enjoyable experience at Regent’s Park in 2012. We knew the Lollibop organisers had listened carefully to the calls for more activities and a better space for the festival. Arlo was almost 4, and at a good age to get REALLY stuck in with most of the activities and entertainment on offer. He had spotted the posters for Lollibop every time we travelled on the underground, and was seriously excited about going to a place where all his most-watched characters and presenters from Cbeebies would be.

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A little back story: Arlo is a serious Cbeebies fanboy. Yes, he probably watches far too much of it. In fact, we don’t really watch any other channel or programs, aside from a brief dalliance with channel 5′s ‘Milkshake’ during his die-hard Thomas phase.

In case you hadn’t already gathered from the heavy mentions in pretty much ALL of my recent YouTube videos, Arlo’s absolute favourite is Andy Day. He watches Andy’s Dinosaur Adventures EVERY DAY. He can recount every single scene from every single episode. He knows all of Andy’s phrases. He re-enacts the adventures at home. We listen to the dinosaur raps EVERY MORNING. I know all the words. (I actually really quite like the raps, there are some great puns in there. Kudos to whoever wrote them, Sam and I both agree that you are a bit awesome).

So, if there was one main goal for our time at Lollibop, it was to see Andy’s show in the Lollipalladium. What we didn’t count on was that it actually would be the ONE (and only) thing that we got to do at Lollibop.

Now, everyone knows that the number one rule of parenting is to never tell your young child that you are doing something, until you can 100% guarantee that you ARE doing it. And so the first thing we did when we arrived on site at 12pm was to suss out where the Lollipalladium was in good time for Andy’s show at 1.55pm.

And that was when we saw the queue – snaking up and down and round and round and round the main concourse of the Lollibop site. At this point we faced a decision: Not mention anything to Arlo and forget about seeing Andy entirely, or start queuing.

Sam and I both wanted Arlo to see Andy. We knew it was the thing that HE would get the most from, out of everything at Lollibop. Plus, we are British, and we feel compelled to join a large queue when we see one.

So that’s what we did. We also figured it wouldn’t be too much of a bad thing if the queue did move quickly, as Arlo would most likely be interested in seeing Show Me Show Me and Mr Bloom too (who were on before Andy).

We ate our lunch in the queue and watched as it grew to what must have been over a mile in length. During this time, we saw no one doing crowd management (the queue was starting to get in the way of the through traffic of people and buggies, this was resolved about an hour later by chopping the queue into two sections), and no one coming over to apologise for the long wait, or to explain how the queue system worked – which was all we wanted, really.

This queue was entirely unmanageable for one adult to tackle alone – Sam and I could tag team taking children to the toilet and going on a snack-run, but what happens if you are the only adult and your child needs the toilet?

A lack of research was probably my downfall. Had I been keeping an eye on the tweets of Lollibop attendees from the Friday, I would have known in advance about the queue, and the fact it was a seated tent. I had assumed the tent was standing, like it had been the two years previous, when we had been able to wander by at any point and catch parts of any show without queuing.

I could see that the tent this year didn’t have the open sides like in previous years, but in all honestly, I was baffled by the huge queue. And it wasn’t until we reached the front (after one hour of queuing), that the staff there told us it was a seated tent, and that we would only be allowed in for one show, and then everyone was booted out again.

 

Once we’d reached the front of the queue, we then faced a further hour waiting right outside the tent, in order to see our chosen show. Arlo had been amazingly patient with queuing up until this point, but it was a step too far for a three year old sitting two feet away from a tent where he could hear Mr Bloom but didn’t understand why he’d reached the front and wasn’t allowed to go in and watch.

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There was no way to time the queue accurately for your preferred show. The only option was to join the queue and hope for the best. However, I do feel that we wasted that second hour waiting right outside the tent, had there been someone to explain the queue system and the fact that it was seated and you could only stay for one show, we wouldn’t have joined the queue as early as we did, and we could have had 45 minutes or so exploring the other areas of the festival.

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It was 2.45pm by the time Andy’s Show finished. We had been at Lollibop for almost 3 hours, and had only done one thing. We watched the start of Mr Tumble on the main stage, took sight of the crowds for Andy’s Meet and Greet and decided we couldn’t face another queue, spent an enjoyable 4 minute slot at the Little Tikes zone, and by then we were all well and truly spent.

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How cute is Rory in this massively oversized Little Tikes vest??

As I said before, Lollibop IS what you make of it. I have heard reports from fellow bloggers who had a great time doing lots of different things. We chose to play our day the way we did, but for me, it felt like a big shame that we didn’t have the time or energy to explore the rest of the festival – there were loads of activities that I think Arlo would have loved.

In the interest of being fair, I emailed all of this to Lollibop one week ago (awaiting response), so they know my opinion and what I was going to write. I think Lollibop did a really good job of addressing the comments received about last year’s venue choice, and the criticism that there wasn’t much to DO – there was loads of stuff to get involved with this year, and it was all clearly laid out and easy to access.

The problem was, that I think Lollibop seriously misunderstood their target customer. You can’t ask any Cbeebies-loving preschooler to queue for such long periods or to choose between their favourites. Three year olds form rather obsessive attachments, and nothing else will do. The Cbeebies acts are one of the main draws of Lollibop Festival, and anything generating queues of that size should be on the main outdoor stage, rather than in an exclusive tent with a capacity that can only house a tiny fraction of the overall visitors to the festival.

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We received press tickets for Lollibop 2014.